There is a particular aspect of mental strength that is the deciding factor of whether or not you will have a good life. There are many
levels to mental strength and all are needed to be successful and happy. The
one particular area of mental strength that has the greatest impact is that of
emotional strength.
Emotions are, of course, a part of our psyche, yet nevertheless,
can be distinguished from the remainder of mental qualities because they most
directly influence our physical body. They affect the way our body functions
and they drive every single one of our actions. Without emotion, we would have
no reason to act, to do anything with ourselves.
Emotions are our
greatest motivators. Unfortunately, they can motivate us to act in any direction,
even the wrong one. For this reason, emotional strength is essential. There are
countless situations that emotionally strong people avoid and many actions they
never take. Here are 15 of them:
1. They Don’t Beg For
Attention
Needing attention is
directly linked to emotion. Those who feel the need for recognition only find
themselves experiencing feelings of worth when others make them feel needed;
it’s as if these people are uncertain of their value, or if they have any ounce
of self-worth. Feeling unsure of your worth is a self-fulfilling prophecy; if
you don’t know you matter, then no one will ever believe you do.
2. They Don’t Allow Others To
Bring Them Down
Emotional strength
requires resilience. This world is filled with haters and trolls. There are
jealous eyes lurking around every corner. The unfortunate truth is that often
the people who hold us back the most are those closest to us. Getting rid of these people is often the best
solution, but also the most difficult. If you can quietly remove these people
from your life, that’s one fewer bridge burned and much less of an emotional
trigger.
3. They Don’t Hold Grudges
If you’re holding a grudge, then you already care more about a
situation than you should. If a person apologizes genuinely, forgive him or
her. If this person doesn’t apologize, then don’t interact with him or her, but
don’t hold grudges. People with whom you seek to alienate and hold grudges
against take up too much of your mental energy, doing more harm than good.
4. They Never Stop Doing
Their Own Thing
Emotionally strong individuals do what they do because they love
doing it. They don’t plan on slowing down or stopping for anyone who deems
their happiness inappropriate.
5. They Never Stop Believing
In Themselves
Those who love themselves and understand themselves — those who
aren’t afraid or proud to be themselves — never doubt themselves. You amount to
your own self-worth, not a shilling more.
6. They Don’t Act Like
Bitches Or Morons
People are mean. But we wonder, why? Being a jerk is only good
as an intimidation factor, and if you’re trying to intimidate people, then you
better be a negotiator by profession; if you’re intimidating just for the sake
of it, you’re obviously overcompensating for a lack of confidence. Do you also
drive a very large automobile, perhaps? I hear they make pills for that.
7. They Know Better Than To
Let Just Anyone Into Their Lives
The emotionally strong are emotionally strong for a reason: They
don’t expose themselves to people who break down their defenses and crush their
morale. Most people in the world are lost and will be more than happy to take
you along with them. Don’t let an awful acquaintance ruin your happiness.
8. They Aren’t Afraid To Love
If you’re afraid to love, you don’t have enough confidence in
yourself. You obviously think you can’t be in a lasting relationship, but only
in one that is doomed for disaster. You don’t want to get hurt again because
getting hurt really sucks. There is no reason for you to get your heart broken
again because you are awesome. If things don’t work out, it’s not you. It’s the
two of you together. Unless, of course, you are an awful human being; in that
case, it is you.
9. They Don’t Lie In Bed
Dreading The Day Ahead Of Them
The best part of your day should be the moment you wake up and
realize you’re still alive. We take life for granted too regularly.
10. They’re Not Afraid Of
Slowing Down
Emotionally strong people aren’t in need of constant action and
excitement. They don’t need to run around all day and keep moving in order to
avoid their demons. They appreciate a slow moment because it brings them closer
to what it feels like to do nothing but living, breathing. This is not to say
that they don’t enjoy excitement in their lives, but they aren’t junkies and
are more than happy to just go for a walk and smell the roses.
11. They Don’t Do Things They
Don’t Want To Do
We all do things that we don’t love to do, but we should never
do things that we don’t want to do. The emotionally strong understand that and
almost always manage to figure out a way to focus on what they love, which
allows them to figure out what they need to do, in order to do what they love.
Although they may not love every second of it, they like doing what they are
doing because it’s bringing them one step closer to what they would love to do.
12. They Have No Problem
Saying “No”
If you can’t say “no,” you will get abused. You’ll be considered
a pushover and no one will ever ask you for your opinion or take it seriously
when you give it. Saying “no” reminds people that they don’t have control over
you.
13. They Don’t “Forget” To
Give Back
We’re not too busy or too poor to donate our money and/or time.
We don’t forget, either. Some people just choose to ignore our responsibilities
as human beings. The stronger you are emotionally, the more you come to
appreciate others and life itself. You give life more worth and you begin to
empathize with those who were dealt a bad hand.
14. They Don’t Feel The Need
To Fit In
The stronger you are emotionally, the more independent you become.
You don’t feel the need to fit in because you fit in where it matters: the
world. People form smaller social groups that are often skewed and unhealthy.
Wanting to fit in doesn’t say much more than “I’m afraid to be myself.”
15. They Don’t Forget That
Happiness Is A Decision
Most importantly, the emotionally strong have learned to
understand the power their brains have over both the mind and body. They
understand that emotions are reactions, not reactions to direct physical
causes, but to the way we perceive those causes. In other words, our emotions
don’t reflect reality; rather, our emotions reflect the way we interpret
reality. Understanding this gives us near-full control of our emotions and,
therefore, our lives.
( Courtesy: PAUL HUDSON)